45 and dating
I am probably one of the few men in their fifties who can spend a lot of time online reading blogs by young women and exchanging messages with them without having to clear my browser history before my wife sees it.
I do of course have a perfectly legitimate reason to do so, and I am also lucky enough to have a very good relationship with Mrs Beautyscientist.
Many middle aged and older men on dating sites seek out women younger than themselves. You can certainly have a perfectly enjoyable and fulfilling life without a man around.
The arithmetic leaves the women their own age with many fewer options. And having an enjoyable and fulfilling life is probably going to make you more attractive at the same time.
Speed dating is the hot new alternative on the dating scene, compared to barhopping and online dating.
In the present world of speed and frenzy, speed dating is the instant dating solution for today’s youngsters.
Not a relationship per se—this business of being on my own and caring only for myself is intriguing and I’m learning too much to want to abandon it.
I wasn’t interested in Match.com, nor a friends-with-benefits setup. Or so I thought until I went on the one and only date I’ve had (outside that marriage) in the last quarter century.
Or at least, that’s what I would be doing if my friends weren’t actively trying to stop me.
The older I get, the more people tell me I need to change who I am looking for. I would honestly rather be alone than with the wrong person.
I have been with men I convinced myself were someone they were not. I wanted to believe he was the one so bad, I was willing to overlook he was bad.
One thing you really don’t have is the luxury of time. The trick is to select from among these the questions that are closest to your heart and whose answers are important to you.
If you are tongue-tied, you are out of the picture. You must go about the dating event with a positive attitude. Also remember never to be tongue-tied and paralyzed if you can't remember the important questions; there are so many inane things to discuss and enjoy!